https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries daily 0.75 2026-04-01 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/old-identities monthly 0.5 2026-04-01 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1775006035735-FT8U2G1DDW75OA95CJUD/unsplash-image--7A6aRj_3nY.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - Outgrowing & Releasing Old Identities - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1775006082682-2WY46V677YCQ8SPSII32/unsplash-image-nGGo9UFBU88.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - Outgrowing & Releasing Old Identities - Make it stand out (Not my house, but a good representation of how cluttered every space I had was.) https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1775006815899-CGEMR8SQHFCK4ZG2IPXA/unsplash-image-R5Cgy-aAIxc.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - Outgrowing & Releasing Old Identities - When I realized that, I met my decluttering coach, and what do you know — I still had a lot of things I held on to and never really gave much thought to. These were the things with actual sentimental value, good and bad. For example, I had a little “treasure box” that held things symbolizing what made me happy. Mind you, I had no idea I did this. I looked at it one day, and it made me wonder. So I took a picture of it and sent it to my decluttering coach, and she told me to bring it to our next session. https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/rebranding-again monthly 0.5 2026-02-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1771969362163-LE3NS8QSYYICMTUXJY09/unsplash-image-8GyUfFzrwAg.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - Are you firing me? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/8ece72e8-c05e-4316-8e76-32b0754be019/47EEFCFA-7544-4E2A-9377-2DB98C5FCA19.png Ducked Up Diaries - Are you firing me? - (If you can’t tell, this image is completely AI generated) He kept saying, “I know.” So I asked, “So we’re on the same page?” He nodded. And then I said, “Maybe we just agree that I’m doing this on my own for now.” He looked at me and said, “Are you firing me?” And I paused. “Is that what I’m doing? … Why yes. Yes I am firing my husband.” We both laughed. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/29990830-0f46-4fbd-b075-9f581fc42719/4.png Ducked Up Diaries - Are you firing me? - Messy. Honest. Unpolished. I know I will get better. With practice. With time. Years from now I will listen to that first episode and smile at how far I’ve come. That thought excites me more than perfection ever did. This is me building in real time. Beautifully. Unhinged. And finally clear. https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/still-here-still-moving monthly 0.5 2026-01-31 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/a3af5288-8778-4847-9ac0-d2baa27b39c8/IMG_4066.jpeg Ducked Up Diaries - Still Here, Still Moving - We originally thought we’d be gone sometime in April, but we decided that April would actually be the best time to put our house on the market. That means we’ll be here a little longer than planned. In hindsight, that’s a good thing, because our original timeline was unrealistic anyway. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/e081bae8-6c51-4891-be7c-b607a605af58/IMG_3881.jpeg Ducked Up Diaries - Still Here, Still Moving - Then came the bill. As we walked to the front desk, we figured it would cost maybe $350… $400… $500 at most. With the visit and the shot included, it came out to almost $800. That was with our military/veteran discount. Turns out the lab work alone was almost $700 without the discount. The receptionist casually asked, “Oh! Did you not want to do it?” What? Were we supposed to say, “Yes, please put her blood back”? No. We need to do this.It was definitely a surprise and a little painful, but it’s doable. It just would’ve been nice to know ahead of time. https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/positively-mad monthly 0.5 2025-12-19 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1f0d9b4d-ddf4-4bbd-ac38-2e6bf7a41133/IMG_3803.jpeg Ducked Up Diaries - Positively Mad - We all welcome the new year in different ways. Some people love the “New Year, New Me” energy. Some make resolutions. Some don’t care at all. And honestly—there’s no wrong way. But if you’ve been with me long enough, you know I think deeply about the why behind what we do. I wrote a short article about resolutions, click the following to read it: “New Year, New Me? Bitch, please!”, but today I want to share a practice that has worked better for me than any resolution ever has. I started doing this in the middle of my nine-year massage career, and it changed everything—from my mindset to my work to how I handled stress. Over time, I combined different ideas, routines, and reflections until I built something that finally felt right. I’m sharing that with you today, in hopes it inspires your own way of entering this new year. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1766162832814-MMSLL0L95LWZWT371GYG/unsplash-image-3Zji01G_ptM.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - Positively Mad - Today I wrote: My white board My teas My ring light My teas are small, everyday joys—things we rarely stop to appreciate after the first time we fall in love with them. My white board finally found a home after four years of being shoved around, unused. That deserved acknowledgment. The ring light? That one was misbehaving—turning on and off on its own, annoying me all morning. So why include it? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/540bf478-218b-4256-8413-fab98c8515d9/IMG_3804.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - Positively Mad - But in the beginning, writing it out was everything. It made the practice intentional. Even then, I skipped plenty of days—because I forgot, because life happened, because consistency isn’t perfection. We’re not aiming for perfection here. So if you miss a day? Don’t beat yourself up. It simply means you might need a little help remembering. Here’s what helped me build consistency at the start: I woke up and saw my notebook on my nightstand. I took it with me to the bathroom. After getting ready, I carried it to the kitchen and wrote while eating breakfast. I left it there, because the kitchen was the first place I walked into after work. When I got home, I grabbed it and took it to the couch to write my accomplishments. And when I was ready for bed, I brought it with me to fill out the last section. https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/a-fresh-start-a-new-name-and-big-things-coming monthly 0.5 2025-12-03 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/my-third-book monthly 0.5 2025-09-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/3c4f393c-0ee9-469f-9e7b-8dcb2a618c25/IMG_0904.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - My Third Book - My Third Book Is Almost Here! Friends, it’s happening—Book Three is almost ready to take flight! Once my editor, Martha Doster, sends it back, I’ll make the final tweaks and load it onto Amazon. I know this one took a while—I even sat on it for two months before the words came back to me. But in August, the writing drive returned, and I powered through. I cannot wait to finally get this book into the hands of those who pre-bought it way back in April. Thank you for your patience—it means the world. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/717ce69a-276a-4801-8b3f-c9807e25b2c9/Untitled+design%282%29.png Ducked Up Diaries - My Third Book - Enter Josh Out of the blue, Josh decided he wanted to try yoga. I had been going to my friend Olivia’s classes—she’s the founder of Yoga For First Responders® (YFFR®), a nonprofit she started 12 years ago. Her approach isn’t your typical yoga—it’s tactical, breath-focused, designed for first responders, military, and veterans. Josh tried it once and never stopped. He loved it so much he got certified just a couple of months ago! I am so proud of him. The breath work changed his life, and soon we realized: his work and mine could merge beautifully under one roof. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/69229182-71ca-42e2-b1e5-ce9b0ad3534c/Untitled+design%283%29.png Ducked Up Diaries - My Third Book - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/inner-water-reflection monthly 0.5 2025-02-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/5869834c-6ea0-45a6-ac35-1ca045a81a10/3.jpg Ducked Up Diaries - Inner Water Reflection? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/turning-the-page monthly 0.5 2025-04-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/db46fac8-1f0d-4456-8019-6be41fddb1ef/Healing+touch+to+healing+words.png Ducked Up Diaries - Turning the Page - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/every-miscarriage-is-different monthly 0.5 2024-10-17 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/the-birth-of-lucky-the-byrd-through-a-miscarriage monthly 0.5 2024-09-13 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Missed+miscarriage monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Loss+and+grief monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Stillborn monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Emotional+pain monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Physical+pain monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Depression monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Devastation monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Miscarriage monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/silent+miscarriage monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/ducked-up-diaries/tag/Postpartum monthly 0.5 https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts daily 0.75 2026-01-13 https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/standing-tall-with-a-cold-and-a-camera monthly 0.5 2026-01-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1768348543623-HF6XKM38XD5VLY5HBZ7F/unsplash-image-ZDNyhmgkZlQ.jpg Weekly Shorts - Standing Tall With a Cold and a Camera - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/new-year-new-me-bitch-please monthly 0.5 2025-12-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1766097044472-ZXUNXWEPLM0ZH3C1NAH7/new+year+new+me.png Weekly Shorts - New Year, New Me? Bitch, please! - January is the time for New Year’s resolutions. Have you ever made one? Maybe you’ve made one every year. Were you able to achieve any of them? If you achieved them all—congratulations! That’s incredible. Maybe most of you have achieved one or two in the past… or none at all. If you did achieve one or two, that’s incredible as well! If none at all? That is honestly most of us. We start things and then trail off. Another new year comes, we start things, and we trail off again. We can’t quite seem to pin it down and fully commit. January feels like the perfect time to start something new. It’s the beginning of the year, and it fits the whole “new year, new me” theme. But does change really have to start in January? When we think about starting something now, we often slip into the “I’ll start Monday” mindset—like starting later makes it more official. Then Monday arrives… and we don’t start at all. Just like saying, “New Year, new me! New Year, here I come!” and the day comes and you don’t even begin. Or you do—but only for two weeks. https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/grief-isnt-a-competition monthly 0.5 2025-12-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1766097689796-4S016XYBI8UV79FBV035/unsplash-image-4le7k9XVYjE.jpg Weekly Shorts - Grief Isn’t a Competition - When I wrote and published my very first book, I was so excited about it. I ordered a box of business cards and passed them out everywhere I went. I even talked to cashiers at the stores I shopped in. One cashier, in particular, shared her miscarriage experience with me. This is one of the reasons I love sharing my stories — you never know what comes from a vulnerable conversation. Most people will open up if you share first. Not to compare traumas. Not to seek sympathy. I never cared about that. I shared because I wanted to help women who couldn’t talk about it openly. I wanted to give them an opening. https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/the-lessons-we-hide monthly 0.5 2025-12-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1766097588755-9QZARP808G9JJ3B0OW77/unsplash-image-y0OAmd_COUM.jpg Weekly Shorts - The Lessons We Hide — and Why Our Kids Need Them - We all know what it looks like to survive. We’ve lived through things we never want our kids to face. And because of that, we promise ourselves: “I will never let anything bad happen to them.” Especially the things that happened to us. But here’s an opinion that might feel uncomfortable: What if talking to our kids about what happened to us is more protective than hiding it? When we silence our traumas and hope our kids never get close to them, a few things happen: We don’t fully acknowledge what we survived. We hide parts of ourselves that shaped us. We forget that our stories carry wisdom, not shame. https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/survivng-the-hormones-of-miscarriage monthly 0.5 2025-12-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1766097504091-OTCLOTQKTVHK4W3Q7EX3/unsplash-image-vXymirxr5ac.jpg Weekly Shorts - Surviving the Hormones of Miscarriage: When Your Body Moves On Before Your Heart Does - But the truth is: My mindset during trauma wasn’t about thriving. It was about surviving. It was: • “Just breathe.” • “Don’t scream.” • “Don’t collapse in front of everyone.” • “Why does it feel like I’m dying inside?” Mindset doesn’t look like inspirational quotes when your life has just crumbled. Mindset looks like clinging to existence. https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/the-labels-we-live-under monthly 0.5 2025-12-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1766097403882-NLPAPDV1EEIRQ2ZYDWI1/unsplash-image-xKnUnPEUiWA.jpg Weekly Shorts - The Labels We Live Under - Common ones sound like: I drink a lot of coffee Don’t talk to me until I’ve had coffee I’m a clutz I’m a failure I’m lazy I’m bad with money I’m bad with relationships I’m a hot mess I’m a perfectionist I’m a control freak I’m independent I’m a survivor I’m a recovering people-pleaser I’m here for the snacks I’m the strong one I disappoint everyone And the list goes on… https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/what-i-birthed-when-i-lost-my-baby monthly 0.5 2025-12-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/e6817d2b-5ce6-41eb-ab61-8ad65e8e2deb/Lucky+the+BYRD+Series.png Weekly Shorts - What I Birthed When I Lost My Baby - Last year, I had a miscarriage. After eleven years of marriage, it was my very first pregnancy — and one month after finding out, it was gone. As a woman in her 40s, I thought I could imagine what it would be like. I’ve had painful cycles, hormonal chaos, and days where I didn’t feel like myself. But none of that prepared me for what actually happened. The physical pain was unbearable… but the emotional pain? That was something else entirely. During my first ultrasound, I found out I had miscarried. The technician didn’t say a word — just the quiet hum of the machine and the stillness on the screen. I went home confused and devastated, searching for answers on my own. That’s when I discovered what had happened: it was something called a missed miscarriage. https://b-unhinged.com/weekly-shorts/blog-post-title-four-t8zeg monthly 0.5 2025-12-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1764791057748-L3CDKQOL9LCR8SSHNMSR/Lucky+the+BYRD+Spouse.png Weekly Shorts - If He Could Grow a Uterus for a Day - Miscarriages are hard in so many ways for the woman. The sudden loss of life we feel. The grief we carry not just in our hearts, but in our entire being. Then there are the hormones — the invisible waves that make us feel like we’re dying on the inside. But what about the men, or the partners in our lives? They also feel. They also grieve. They also lose something. They may not feel the physical pain or experience the wild emotional rollercoaster of hormonal chaos — but they still feel. But what about the men, or the partners in our lives? They also feel. They also grieve. They also lose something. They may not feel the physical pain or experience the wild emotional rollercoaster of hormonal chaos — but they still feel. And maybe even worse, they’re forced to watch us struggle — without any idea why we react the way we do or what’s happening inside our bodies. Maybe we could trade for a day — they could grow a uterus, and we could grow a pair — just to understand each other better! We all know that’s not how it works... but wouldn’t that be nice? Communication would be so much easier! The truth is, both sides get lost in a miscarriage. The woman is lost in her pain, unable to find words for what’s happening. The man is lost in confusion, unable to imagine what she’s going through, desperate to fix a problem that can’t be fixed. And that’s where things usually go wrong — because there’s nothing to fix. So how do we explain what it feels like? What words make it click in their heads? Who helps them understand how to support us? There aren’t many answers out there. And that’s where we often drop our heads in defeat. I didn’t. https://b-unhinged.com/home daily 1.0 2026-02-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/c7695c03-2cfc-40c3-8bcc-7a4f485c242d/IMG_1991_Original.jpeg https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/9a75fd6a-d290-4ce3-99b3-1240586a6067/Cat%281%29.png https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/a9c431c8-66e4-43a3-b957-a371adb0f18f/IMG_3868.png https://b-unhinged.com/ourstory daily 0.75 2025-12-31 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/071bf0f8-a9fb-4cdb-8eaf-f421e09a3fcf/Untitled+design%285%29.png https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1a4d7efb-719e-408b-8116-26bbef6d9292/Certified+Instructor.png https://b-unhinged.com/privacy-policy daily 0.75 2025-07-11 https://b-unhinged.com/follow-our-journey daily 0.75 2026-01-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/2d83ae25-d7f3-47ac-aa5e-7b8fb2d4834e/My+Angel+Baby%2C+Thank+you+Olivia%21.png Follow Our Journey (socials) https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/e6817d2b-5ce6-41eb-ab61-8ad65e8e2deb/Lucky+the+BYRD+Series.png Follow Our Journey (socials) https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/490dc604-2b40-4bb7-8a56-262869952128/IMG_3595.png Follow Our Journey (socials) https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store daily 0.75 2025-07-10 https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/our-books monthly 0.5 2026-02-24 https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/self-guided-workshops monthly 0.5 2025-11-13 https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/p/lucky-the-byrd-set-all-signed monthly 0.5 2026-01-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/8d89eaff-b31c-4f55-9988-b724b9971e39/IMG_3510.jpeg Invest in You--Store - Lucky the BYRD Set (All Signed) - IMG_3510.jpeg https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/5ccedff5-7b33-4b03-ae71-a3cf73704f1a/IMG_3511.jpeg Invest in You--Store - Lucky the BYRD Set (All Signed) - IMG_3511.jpeg https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/p/lucky-the-byrd-turning-the-page-signed-copyhard-cover monthly 0.5 2025-12-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/efc4f786-3e1a-4eed-92dc-aa31ebab290d/Lucky+Turning+the+Page+ebook+cover.jpg Invest in You--Store - Lucky the BYRD: Turning the Page (Signed Copy/Paper Back) - Lucky Turning the Page ebook cover.jpg https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/p/lucky-the-byrd-standing-by-her-side-through-a-miscarriage-signed-copy monthly 0.5 2025-11-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/1729202321535-MYI8K2L082R50V1EUE55/Untitled+design%281%29.png Invest in You--Store - Lucky the BYRD: Standing By Her Side Through a Miscarriage (Signed Copy) - Untitled design(1).png https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/p/the-birth-of-lucky-the-byrd-through-a-miscarriage-signed-copy monthly 0.5 2025-11-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/169b8482-a634-420d-afa3-753dae786cd1/book+cover+The+birth+of+Lucky+the+BYRD+%28Big+Yellow+Rubber+Duck%29.png Invest in You--Store - The Birth of Lucky the BYRD Through a MIscarriage (Signed Copy) - book cover The birth of Lucky the BYRD (Big Yellow Rubber Duck).png https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/p/ncxp6xe7ukslh4lti5ec8bwa1e4wek monthly 0.5 2025-11-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/e7a42645-95f6-41b7-bed2-189e58a099c8/Reflective+Talk+101+thumbnail+%28Facebook+Post%29.png Invest in You--Store - Reflective Talk 101 - Self-Guided Mini Workshop (Digital) https://b-unhinged.com/invest-in-you-store/p/ncxp6xe7ukslh4lti5ec8bwa1e4wek-9by79 monthly 0.5 2025-11-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/66c8e6d48ac89271cf25e585/e7a42645-95f6-41b7-bed2-189e58a099c8/Reflective+Talk+101+thumbnail+%28Facebook+Post%29.png Invest in You--Store - Reflective Talk 101 - Self-Guided Mini Workshop (Print) https://b-unhinged.com/cat-unmuted daily 0.75 2026-02-24 https://b-unhinged.com/cat-unmuted/v/8cs8832zee2p238y6t72msjwl72frw monthly 0.5 2026-01-26 https://b-unhinged.com/cat-unmuted/v/season1-ep2 monthly 0.5 2026-01-13 https://b-unhinged.com/cat-unmuted/v/season1episode1 monthly 0.5 2026-01-13